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Questions about my 2 year old


Name: Jenni Van Ausdall
Question: My son is 2 and is sleeping with my husband and I, how do we break him of this? What’s the best way to start potty training him? He also still has his binky. We just had a baby 2 months ago so I didn’t take it away and now his little brother has a binky as well, so it’s not hard for him to go take his brother’s if I won’t let him have one. What do I do?

Jenni, Let’s start by remembering that your son is only 2 years old. Even though you now have another baby, you still have a baby. I would take one thing at a time. I would start with the sleeping. A reward chart can help with this. Give him a gold star for every night he sleeps the whole night in his room. When he gets to a certain number of stars, have something for him that he is excited about (i.e. a trip to the ice cream store, a toy he has been wanting). Praise him for being such a big boy and remember to give him lots and lots of love. He is still a baby and now he is a “big” brother. Good luck and keep in touch. Jen

3 Responses to “Questions about my 2 year old”

  1. Sue B says:

    Been there. I have 4 and 2 year old boys. That’s quite a list of habits you want to change. Go easy on yourself and him. Each child is different. My oldest didn’t quit the binkies until almost 3, and my younger one, just 2 is off the binkies almost completely. I started with the easy habit first – the binky. Then used the same steps to get them out of my hubby’s and my bed. Part of the job is convincing your son it’s “cool” to be a big boy – but you have to make it fun.

    Work on eliminating ONE habit at a time, gradually, or you will make him twitchy. Set parameters up for each habit. Here’s how I got rid of the binky for both boys: first week or two, eliminate it when you go out to the store and out to play, and be gentle but firm about the new rule. Tell him you want to see his sparkly smile when you go out and can’t if he’s got a binky. After he gets used to the new rule, take it away during daytime except for naps. After a week or two, take it away when he’s napping. Once he’s not looking for it during the day and is used to not having them, you can tell him no more binks at night. Also, I don’t buy replacements. My 2 year old is down to 3 working binkies, and when they are gone, that’s it – he even throws them out when they break – with pride, which I congratulate him for each time! Expect tears at first, but be firm. The big key for each step is you will notice he’s not looking for them anymore at specified times. Once he’s clearly not looking for them – go on to the next step after a day or two.

    One big key to the bed thing in our family is we really got them both thinking about having their own beds and created a sense of their space – we bought them awesome sheets that they picked out and made a big deal out of how cool their beds were – after that, they only wanted to sleep in their beds! We let them “read” in bed and keep some of their toys nearby – yes, it keeps them up a little while at night, but it gives them a sense of ownership of their space.

    Good Luck!

  2. Barb says:

    My twin daughters are 9 and are still trying to sleep in our bed! I agree with Jen he is still a baby and needs a lot of attention. What I use to do is when my daughters would come into my bed I would walk them back to theirs. It was painful because I was beyond exhausted but it worked. barb

  3. Mary Kay Jenkins says:

    If you have trouble with him still coming into your room in the middle of the night, put a blanket and a pillow on the floor and tell him he can sleep there, but not in your bed. That’s not near as much fun, and eventually he’ll give it up. If he’s still in a crib, just brace yourself for the tears for a while, and he will get over it!

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